There is no heartbreak like losing a dog. A furry best friend that you have had through marriages, births, moving, and everything else life brings. They are the one constant love no matter what. Every day. Unconditional Love.
An article I read recently that stated that the loss of a dog, or companion animal in general, can be as devastating as the loss of a human significant other or a child.
Grief is different for everyone. It depends on the circumstances of the death, their age, as well as the relationship you had, and more. Many times it may take humans longer who live alone or maybe are grieving the loss of their therapy dog. They are not just losing their dog, but a vital aid to their daily tasks.
The good news… According to Abraham Hicks, who I am a big fan of, dogs can come back and be your dog again. This lifetime is just one of their many trips to earth to be your spirit guide. Your love connection. Dogs are always on a high vibration, therefore raising yours just from being around them. So when they are no longer around, we feel it!
Saying goodbye to my beloved dog, Jesse McFurzletons
I had to say goodbye to Jesse. The yellow lab featured in most of my blog posts and my main inspiration. She was my shadow and it was hard (to say the least). But I know she will be back and I can feel her with me. Why can’t dogs live longer? It just doesn’t seem fair.
In a book my Allen and Linda Anderson, called “Angel Dogs: Devine Messengers of Love”, they talk about the dog as messengers of spirit. They said:
“Dogs bring to humans such messages as; You are loved. You are not alone. You are protected and guided by a divine higher power. Dogs deliver messages such as When you are lonely, weary, overwhelmed by life’s burdens, I am here. People who are in pain often can’t hear the voice of God whispering comfort and hope. So God sends them a messenger with a furry face, wagging tail, licking tongue, and generous heart. Those who can accept the gift are taught that love is all around by one of life’s wisest teachers.”
I feel like Jesse was here exactly for that period of my life (2006-2019) for a reason. This year I have a total new look on life and have found my light. I made it through hard phases of my life and I am now ready for my next steps. Thank you Jess for being here when you were! I couldn’t have asked for a better dog. She loved my kids just as much as she loved me. Heart and soul. I can’t wait to see her again!
How do we cope from losing a pet?
Dogs are Family. Just take it day by day and know they are with us in spirit. I realize it’s not the same but just being thankful they were here for us makes us grateful. I know I am grateful for every single day with Jess.
- Grief has no timeline and no boundaries. It may take weeks to acknowledge the full reality of the loss. It will come at your own time, everyone is different. Be kind to yourself as you prepare for your “new normal” physical life without them.
- It is important and healthier to take time to work through your feelings and not just push them aside ignoring your feelings.
- Embrace your memories as it allows them to live on in you. (It is still hard for me to think about happy or sad memories with Jesse, without crying) This blog is a way I can keep her memory alive. Another example could be to write a tribute or a letter, or maybe plant a tree in their name. Many things you can do and this can help the kids as well.
- Adjusting your self-identity. You may be known as “the lady with the Yellow Labrador at the dog park”, as people think of you in relation to your pet. This is a hard adjustment as you no longer have your furry best friend.
- Ask for the meaning and purpose of your dog in your life. Coming to terms with these questions helps you during your grief journey. As I stated, I know why Jesse was with me for the decade she was. It was perfect timing.
- Accept support from others. You never really get over grief. Talk with other pet owners who know the pain and have been through it. Do not let “non-pet owners” dictate your grief, as they don’t understand. It is not “just a dog”. Your grief is normal and real, the relationship you shared needs to be mourned.
Resources: https://www.avma.org and the books:
- Signs from Pets in the Afterlife by Lyn Ragan – Identifying messages from pets in Heaven
- Angel Dogs: Divine Messengers of Love by Allen & Linda Anderson
Thank you all for your support in the loss of Jesse. I hope this helps you in some way.
Dog Bless and hug those furry kids extra tight for me tonight!
Holli~ The Dog Connection